Personal Gender Pronouns

Pronoun Usage

Referring to people by the pronouns they determine for themselves is basic to human dignity. Being referred to by the wrong pronouns particularly affects transgender and gender nonconforming people. Together, we can transform society to celebrate people’s multiple, intersecting identities. (

There are respectful ways to ask a person about their personal pronouns:

  • What pronouns do you use?"

  • "How would you like me to refer to you?"

  • "How would you like to be addressed?"

  • "Can you remind me which pronouns you like for yourself?"

  • "My name is Mark and my pronouns are he, him, and his. What about you?"


There are some situations when we are unsure or unable to ask what pronouns an individual prefers. Here are a couple things you can do...

  • Stick to using they/them/theirs as it's a safe, gender neutral approach that rarely offends anyone.

  • Use their name in place of any pronoun: "Sam was feeling hungry, so Sam went to the kitchen for a snack."

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